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  • Someone asked:
    Ages 60+ male/ female on average what should our sex life look like?
    • Samantha Heuwagen replied:
      However you want it to look! There is no normal.
  • Someone asked:
    hi i'm in my mid 60s no wife or girlfriend in today world i feel it better for me to stay home and not get sick my health is not great but i'm living i masturbate a lot it make me feel good i was wondering i have a small cock is there any sex toy for men who are small like me ?
    • Samantha Heuwagen replied:
      Thanks for stopping by! Toys are such personal choices and require honest conversations with yourself about what you want. Feel free to check out V for Vibes who offer great options for all your needs! Use SAMANTHA09 for 20% too! Good luck!
  • Someone asked:
    Hi! I am currently applying to the MFT program at Mercer and wondered if I could get your thoughts on how you liked the program and your experience at Mercer! I found your info on Linkedin! 🙂 My email address is [email protected], Lindsay Heard
    • Samantha Heuwagen replied:
      Hey and congratulations! Feel free to email me and we can schedule a time to chat! Can’t wait!
  • Someone asked:
    Hi I got married 8 month ago but I been hiding a secret from my wife I like to suck on penis from my best friend I feel guilty about it but I like it I don't know if I should tell my wife she's open minded but I just don't know if I should tell her
    • Samantha Heuwagen replied:
      Hello! Yes, I think it's best that you do. You may want to hire a couples therapist to help facilitate the conversation and restore any trust that may have been lost. I would also encourage you to think about attending therapy solo to explore your own sexuality and what it means for your marriage. Best of luck! -S
  • Someone asked:
    Hi..I have one bad sex where could not ejaculate .After that every time I try to do .I get so anxious about performance as rsult go into cycle of anxiety can this reversed
    • Samantha Heuwagen replied:
      Working with a helping professional can give you the space to work through your anxiety and navigate a healthy sex life. Good luck!
  • Someone asked:
    I'm a older man who masturbates 2 to 3 times a day is this normal
    • Samantha Heuwagen replied:
      There is no normal. There is, however, what bothers you and takes you away from other parts of your life. If it’s bothering you, you may want to seek professional help to help process and discover why. Good luck!
  • Someone asked:
    Will you give me a lingham massage to help me understand my body?
    • Samantha Heuwagen replied:
      Hello! No, I only offer talk therapy.
  • Someone asked:
    Hello,I'm a 23 yr old person who grew up in a very repressive household where sex was a shameful act. Now that I'm out on my own, I really want to learn how to pleasure myself but the internet is incredibly overwhelming. I dont think I'm ready for toys or anything like that, but I was wondering if you have any resources regarding sexual self-exploration.
    • Samantha Heuwagen replied:
      Hello and thank you for reaching out. At the top of my head, I don’t have any resources, however, I think if possible working with a trusted mental health professional would be best. I’ve given it some thought and because there’s so many layers to whats going on for you, I think unpacking it safely with someone that can support you through it would be best. If you live in Atlanta, I’d be happy to chat with you further, if not please visit psychologytoday.com to find a helpful profesional in your area. Please don’t hesitate to reach out to discuss more. -S
  • Someone asked:
    I have a very sexually confused son. He has always liked to play make up and dress in females clothing. now that he is an adult he has come to me and told me he wants to be a submissive and want a woman to dominate him into dressing and acting like a women. I am worried and he is sad and confused about himslef. I want to be supportive but dont really know how. I have bought him female clothing, makeup and talked to him about anything he wants to discuse. It hurts me to the bone that he gets so depressed about himself. Would your type of therapy help him discover his true self?
    • Samantha Heuwagen replied:
      Hello! You’re asking great questions and exploring what all this means for you. What I suggest is for you both to find a therapist to work with to discover how you both can work through what’s going on and help you be supportive. Please don’t hesitate to contact me—-I’d love to help you both in whatever way I can! -Samantha
  • Someone asked:
    My son thinks he wants to become a "Sissy". He is not sure about his sexuality. would your kind of therapy help him discover if he is transgender, transsexual, or just help him decide? He is 24
    • Samantha Heuwagen replied:
      Hello! Yes I would be happy to help in anyway if he lives in Atlanta. Feel free to contact me and we can see if I’ll be a good fit for him and his needs. -Samantha