Pick Better Partners!

If I had a dollar for every time someone asked me how to find the love of their life, I would be a rich woman.

As a marriage therapist people like to think I have all the answers to life’s romantic mysteries.

Fun fact: I don’t–– wish I did, but I don’t!

But I will tell you this: if you want to find the love of your life you have to do one simple thing. Sit down, this one is going to be big!

PICK BETTER PARTNERS!

BOOM. Told you it would be a big one.

Hear me out…. If you know in your heart (or brain, whatever) that you want a forever relationship and that you’re ready for the next step (whatever that means to you) then you’re going to have to up your game and stop playing around.

Look I ever said it was going to be easy, worth it, yes. Easy? Hell no.

If going to bars or clubs or the nearest library isn’t working, you’re going to have to change your plan of attack. What do you really like to do? If there are a few hobbies or activities you LOVE then go do those things. Because of the wonderful internet you can find groups doing those things or other individuals interested in the same things. You’ll even find a friend or, at the very least, find someone with a friend that would match you in–– dare I say it? Match you in a perfect way! Mind blown.

Picking the same type of partner or falling into familiar patterns will not equate to a forever love. You want something different you’re going to have to discover what those patterns are and fix them. Use a trusted friend or family member to help point them out or go see a professional like me.

At the end of the day, if you want something, you’re going to have to put the work into getting it. I never said it was easy–– worth it, yes. Easy, hell no.

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