Marriage: It’s Hard, But it Doesn’t Have to Be
As a therapist I always question my clients about how they know certain things. How do you know it has to be that way? How do you know you can’t do X, Y, or Z? How do you know? How? Why? You get the idea.
One of the topics that seems to have the most impact on a healthy and happy life is marriage.
“My marriage sucks.”
“Partner drives me up a wall and I think I hate them.”
“They never clean! Why can’t they just clean? They don’t love me.”
“Marriage is not worth it, I hate it.”
I always feel bad for couples who think marriage is painful or look at their partners with such distain it makes the room uncomfortable. As a marriage and family therapist I’ve seen and heard it all.
Marriage is rough and it’s not all sunshine and rainbows, but it is magical. It is hard work, like, super hard somedays.
Like anything in life you get out of it what you put into it. It’s beautiful to see all humanistic aspects of a partner. To grow with someone and to have someone witness our life in real time. It’s not perfect, nothing is, just like nothing is guaranteed. We just have to ride out the bad and sail through the good.
At the end of the day, marriage doesn’t have to be what society says it is or what your family thinks you should be doing. You get to decide what is best for you and your partner, together as a team.
**If you live in the Atlanta Metro area please feel free to reach out to me, Samantha, to help process different issues, life events or any topic. You can find more information here or email me SHeuwagen[at]gmail[dot]com.